Tyler

so lately, a couple good friends of mine have sought to me for relationship issues.
at some point during the conversation i come to a stand still and become scatter brained because i haven't had to deal with some of the issues they're dealing with in a long time.
one of the main conflicts that arise are wanting to have that reliable companionship. the feeling of having that someone who loves you regardless is a feeling that everyone wants. right? maybe.
in my opinion i believe that dating is good for everyone. it allows people to find bits and pieces of different traits they want in their husband or wife.

after late night talks, tears, and my eagerness to try to soothe their aching heart i could only instill hope in my friends. i tried my best to encourage them that God has placed someone so incredible and unimaginable in their life. it may not be now, tomorrow, or even soon but with God's timing he will put someone in your life that will be worth waiting for. with roller coaster emotions i'm sure what i told them didn't make things better right away but i do hope that they will come to an understanding that relationships are hard to understand. we may want it one way, but it happens the other way.

with this topic it gives me the opportunity to share the journey i've had with relationships, and how i am finally united with my soul mate. i know i'm only 20, but believe it or not i've finally found the one i want to be with for the rest of my life, and till death does us part.

one of my first real relationship was with a guy who lived 12 hours away from me. he lived in my hometown that i actually visited often during our time together. despite our separation i was able to gain so much from my relationship with him. it allowed me to be very faithful. it taught me how to only commit to one person regardless of how far away he was. this relationship also allowed us to put God before everything. he was so strong in his faith that soon enough rubbed off onto me. after a year we made our separate ways and he prepared me to take any relationship head on.

my next relationship is where i experienced a wide range of emotions. i guess you can consider him my first love. he was athletic, outgoing, caring, and he could drive. at the age of 16 who wouldn't want a guy that had traits like these? we were similar but different in many ways. we became very comfortable together and this is where i learned what i wanted in my husband. after a year my life and world turned upside down and i couldn't seem to put it back into the correct position. what i thought i knew turned into a scary movie. heart break after heart break left me wanting to escape for a long time. i felt hopeless and only wanted out. after our separation i felt a huge sense or relief but what next?

i hadn't dated in two years and  i forgot what it even felt like to feel interested by other people. from then on i casually dated different people. it ranged from a musician, to a nerd, to another athlete, and then a cowboy. once i started college i stopped dating and focused on my future. at that point i knew who i wanted to be part of my life and if i don't find him for awhile then i knew i just had to deal with it and enjoy life as it came.

UNTIL, this guy unexpectedly walked into my life. when i was 18 i thought my husband would be my ethnicity, and founded somewhere in southern California. but, it was no where near that.
we knew each other from high school and his dad is the pastor of a church that my family and i attended for a couple of years. he was a total meat head and definitely not my type. i enjoyed tennis, he enjoyed wrestling. he has blonde hair, blue eyes, i like the dark hair, brown eyed boys. it's interesting how our differences still brought us together in some weird way.

it was late my freshman year in college when i found out that he decided to go to school close to home rather than Chicago. he found me on the infamous Facebook and decided to rekindle some kind of fire he thought we had. being single and interested i decided to test the waters. we talked all day everyday for several weeks and then we decided to get together. we took our relationship at ease and nothing was rushed. from time to time i questioned God about our relationship. it seemed too good to be true. our families had a steady foundation and kept God a priority in their lives. things were going very steady and i was at a high peak of happiness for the first time in a long time. i then suddenly knew that he was the one. God had finally given me my soul mate. earlier than i expected but i wouldn't exchange it for any other way.

after the first year we started to get to know about our background, extended family, and our childhood.
then i found out the most ironic, unexpected, unbelievable thing ever. his grandparents were actually neighbors with my great grandparents and led them to Christ back in Cambodia. so, our families knew each other in the 1960's-70's during their time in Cambodia. my fathers side of the family grew up with Tyler's mom side of the family. the coincidence there is unreal and it only gave me a bigger reason to believe that Tyler is my soul mate.

the commitment we have with one another is no commitment i've ever had with anyone else. with our family 100% supporting us in our relationship and with God a priority our life this is the strongest we've ever been. with minor disagreements he has still been able to accept me at my high points and my lowest of the low. i am so thankful for him, and how much we feed good energy off of one another. it's been three years since the day he asked me to be his girlfriend and i wouldnt' change it for the world.

Dom